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Hello and hello.
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Welcome back, god's Diamonds in the Rough.
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We are so glad to be back with you one more time.
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Amen.
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We hope all is well.
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We hope you've had a good week, a good day.
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Amen.
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Those of you that are watching by video we have a guest with us today.
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Michael is not here, and so we have Miriam Matthews, who will be co-hosting with me today.
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Amen, all right, did y'all hear her?
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Hello, I'm sorry, the Internet is a little funny right now, but the devil is alive.
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You want to say hello again, miriam.
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I'm sorry.
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Yes, hello, there we go Everyone.
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Yeah, it was going in it now, but hello everybody.
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Thank you so much for having me as a guest on Catherine.
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It's such a pleasure to be here yes, ma'am, yes, ma'am, that's okay, we're gonna.
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We rebuke that, uh, that old devil messing with our internet.
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We're gonna keep on going.
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Anyhow, you heard me come on somebody.
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All right, let's go ahead and pray, father, we, amen, amen.
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Father, we thank you so much for your grace, your mercy.
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Thank you, god, for allowing us to come together one more time.
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I pray, god, that you would touch every ear and every heart, that any eye that might be closed to understanding will be opened.
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I pray, in the name of Jesus, that you would just have your way in this time, in place in us and through us, that you might get your glory, have your way, turn it over to you, god, in jesus christ's name, we do pray.
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Amen, amen.
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All right, miriam, tell us a little bit about yourself, my dear all right.
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Well, I, my name is miriam.
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Again, it's such a pleasure to be on Diamond in the Rough.
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I am a mother, I'm a wife, a military spouse.
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I have three kids, two girls and a boy.
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I'm also expecting one on the way.
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Oh, congratulations.
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I am a CEO, a coach.
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Oh, thank you Thank you so much.
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Ceo, a coach, thank you, thank you so much.
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I'm the coach and CEO of Define your DNA Coaching Academy, where we dive into God, we neutralize those negative beliefs so we can walk in power and purpose.
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I'm also a licensed therapist as well and I have a private practice.
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I have.
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I am now the author of four books Actually a few more, a few more, but four of my own individual books and I am just excited to be in my calling.
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Oh, right now, I know that's right.
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Ain't nothing like doing what you've been called to do.
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It don't feel like work right.
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That's right, amen.
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It doesn't.
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It really doesn't, absolutely.
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It sounds like you got a lot going on, and that is a good thing to be busy in the Lord and working for the kingdom.
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So, absolutely, I first say congratulations to the baby on the way and congratulations to everything that God is doing through you.
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Amen, because you don't know lie, but there's a whole lot of folk that ain't doing nothing.
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You heard me.
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So what is your message today?
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Why?
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Why do you think God had you?
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that's right yeah, why do you think God had you come here today, why you needed to be on God's diamonds in the rough?
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You got something and I can feel it.
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I can see it too.
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Okay, okay.
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Well, you know what, what just dropped in my spirit?
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As you said that, catherine is, the steps of the righteous are ordered by the Lord.
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So I believe that, you know, I always commit my way to him and that's where our thoughts and our plans are established.
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So we don't want to be anywhere in vain, we don't want to be at the wrong place at the wrong time.
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So I believe that this is divine order and a divine connection and God's intervention.
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So so we can speak freedom.
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He said we're going to speak benefit somebody else who may be stagnant or not where they should be, right, yeah, or you know who's in the cave, you know who has been hidden, but it's time to come out.
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It's time to come out the cave and really accept the calling on your life, because it is big, you know God wants us to do.
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He said I want you to do greater works than I did.
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Absolutely Amen.
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Amen.
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So overcoming the battle of your mind.
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So the first thing we need to understand what is the battle?
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What's the battle?
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You said, overcome the battle of your mind.
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So what are we overcoming?
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So when I say, overcome the battle of the mind, there is an enemy against you.
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You know there's an enemy that's been working against us and many times it is through the mind, where you know God right creates and he, you know God has a calling on your life.
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He wants us to be connected to him and know who we are through his eyes.
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And while that is God's plan and mission and design for us, the enemy wants to pervert that thing as well.
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So when the enemy wants to deceive you, he comes to.
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Or when the enemy wants to deceive you, he comes to.
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Or when the enemy wants to destroy you, he deceives you.
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So it's a mind game.
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Many times it's a mental battle.
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I'll even go back to when my mental battle first started and I will say it was through experiencing trauma.
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Many people you know that may be listening right now have experienced some kind of trauma.
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For me it was sexual trauma.
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So I've experienced sexual trauma.
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I've experienced domestic violence.
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I've experienced emotional trauma as well.
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You know some of us have been bullied.
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You know we all have a story yeah, we all have a story and that those experiences create hurt, it creates deception, it creates lies that we may tell ourselves because of what happened to us and it's because the enemy wants you to see yourself in a perverted way, right and and have negative beliefs about yourself so that you are bound.
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But God said it is the truth.
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He said you will know the truth and it's the truth that makes you free.
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So if you want freedom, you have to see the truth and the life.
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So when I talk about the battle of the mind, it's overcoming those negative beliefs, it's overcoming those lies of the enemy that circulate and are rehearsed in our minds, those intrusive thoughts and all those things that create mental captivity.
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I'm going to tell you that's powerful because you said you've dealt with physical abuse and domestic violence, sexual abuse.
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So diamonds that are here that have dealt with those things, she's living proof that it is not over.
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It is not over until god says it's over.
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Um, and a whole lot of times you, you know life is happening to us and we think that, okay, they did me wrong, they did me dirty, they did this, that and the other to me, and we have this woe is me attitude about ourself.
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Speak to that.
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Can you speak to the one that's saying woe is me, okay well, I want to tell you that you're not alone.
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You know, sometimes, many times, when we do experience those heartaches, pains and that trauma, we feel isolated in it.
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You know, we feel like it just happened to us.
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We may feel like a victim of the circumstance, but when we plug into a God, any day with God, and not just like knowing him from a distance, but like truly being in him and receiving healing, you know, receiving peace of mind every day with God is a day in victory.
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You know, if the Bible is saying that you are more than a conqueror, that means that there is healing for you, there's transformation for you.
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So we're not meant to stay in a woe.
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Is me place or mentality?
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You know, and out of the heart, right out of out of the heart, the mouth speaks.
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Or out of the abundance of the mouth, the heart speaks scripture, something like that.
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So what is in the heart means the heart just needs to be transformed.
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The heart just needs to be healed Right, because there are issues that will come out and impact our lives because of the trials and tribulations that we face.
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The mindset that we have is your portion, peace is your portion, so it's not meant for you to stay where you are, but to just really step into healing so that you can become transformed and know who you truly are, outside of the pain.
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Amen.
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I like that.
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Let me add to that you know, ask God, what is the lesson you're trying to teach, amen?
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Oftentimes we're going through this and we're going through that, and bad marriage, bad relationship, and that's the first thing we go.
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What did I do wrong to deserve this?
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You know what I mean and I believe that it's important that we ask God, ask your maker, ask your creator.
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What are you trying to teach me, amen?
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Because when you do that, you can, you're able to grab a hold of the peace, you're able to attain the healing.
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A whole lot of times, I believe that people haven't can't access it because they haven't tapped into it.
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Would you agree with that?
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I would agree with that, absolutely, absolutely.
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It takes, it takes work right.
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So faith without works is dead, and sometimes we hear about that.
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You know healing is possible, but we don't know.
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Like you know, we're operating from a place of probability.
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Well, what if it happens to me again?
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Or what if?
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I'm not going to be completely successful or heal.
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You know, many times we're operating from a place of fear.
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So I can hear the word and accumulate it, and a Wednesday go by and I hear a good word, but if I'm not implementing it then it's not really doing me good.
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There can't be any transformation without implementation.
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So, like you said, go into the work and seek first the kingdom of God.
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His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.
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So you know god puts us back in right standing, you know he makes every crooked thing straight.
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And also know you know to that person who may have that mindset, nothing is going to be wasted.
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There is a lesson attached to everything.
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Those, those lessons have so much value.
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And not only when you get the lesson.
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You, you become a cycle breaker, because so many things are generational.
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There are so many generational patterns that were battling generational curses, things that started way before you even were thought of.
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So you're meant to be that generational breaker and that pattern breaker for your children, for your grandchildren, for your great-grandchildren, for communities, for this world.
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So it is important for you to capture the lesson, because all things are working together for the good of them who love God and are called according to his purpose.
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Right?
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So everything's going to work, no matter what you went, no matter how bad it was everything's going to work out for your good.
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The enemy meant for bad, god means for good, so there is a lesson attached to it.
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Amen, I like it.
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Amen, you're a coach.
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You said you're a coach as well, and what exactly do you do in regard to coaching?
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How can you help some?
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folks out here, so, in regards to coaching, my coaching framework is about transformation, where we look at you know, different parts of your life, whether that be everything's mindset driven in my coaching program.
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That's where you know the battle is won and that's where your fruit is going to flow from.
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You know how you see yourself is what you become and also what you create.
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And let me tell you, you're meant to create right.
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We're not meant to be crippled.
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So the coaching program that I offer is meant to help you heal from what has crippled you, so that you can become cultivated and creating again, you know, so that you can see yourself as the salt and the light, because that's what he describes as that.
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He said you're the salt and the light of the world.
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But sometimes we think, oh man, I'm so surrounded by darkness.
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How is light going to shine bright unless you are surrounded by darkness?
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Because you're meant to be a solution for a problem.
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So it's really to help people get you know, see, yeah, see themselves as a solution and create something.
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And you know whether that be that business that God planted in you, deposited in you, or a book that you're supposed to be writing, or maybe it's a nail salon you're supposed to open, or maybe you're supposed to be a speaker.
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As you begin to heal, there's that clarity that comes back into play because really you know the algorithm of our DNA in crisis, I gave you power, love and a sound mind, he said.
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I didn't give you a spirit of fear power, love and a sound mind.
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So it's you know again.
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It's about going from that crippled state of being into cultivated, into creative mode, into courageous mode, and overcoming fear, not letting fear overcome you, so that you can do what you're called to do.
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Girl, you speak and your words speak victory and I love it because they really do.
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They speak victory and they speak power, and that's ordained to us, that has inherited us.
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God has given us power, has given us power and a whole lot of time.
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People cannot walk in that power, not walking that authority, not walking that dominion, but the reality is it belongs to you.
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Amen, that is the reality.
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It belongs to you.
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And look, you gotta go and get it, you gotta use it.
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You got to, uh, live by it.
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Not just use it and not just get it, but live by it, hallelujah.
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And so I see a book that you just recently wrote, or just published, and it's called pureography.
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So you got the coaching, you got the books tell us about a couple of your books.
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Tell us about this book.
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Okay, absolutely so.
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This is my most recent book.
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It is a 14 day journey through mental freedom, so releasing those mental weights of rejection.
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You know, I've experienced rejection in the past, maybe bad relationships, experience of divorce, or some friends walked away from you, family members didn't understand you.
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So sometimes it's the fear of rejection that is keeping us in that cave.
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We become cave women.
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However, you're supposed to be a cultivated woman and step out back into the light.
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So each chapter is geared towards issues that we've experienced.
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Whether it's anger, whether it's lust, and whether it's procrastination, whether it's fear.
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Each chapter is meant to help you overcome and see yourself differently.
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Right, purography is a spin off of pornography.
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Pornography is perverse.
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It's something that we should look at.
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It's the perverse way of seeing ourselves or seeing other people.
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So, as long as I am, have a lens, that is perverse.
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I'm not seeing myself in the right way.
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I'm not accepting truth.
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Truth leads to freedom, so it's about if I'm giving, I'm casting my cares unto God.
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Right, so it's.
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The chapters are easy to read.
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They're short.
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There's some education in there, and then now we go to affirmations.
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Each chapter has affirmation, so that you can affirm who you are in Christ, because we're all speaking some kind of language, whether that language is negative in our minds and our thoughts or it's positive.
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So it's so important to decree God's word over yourself, you know, because maybe people did speak negative words over you.
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Maybe you internalize those words and you started speaking over yourself.
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Well, he says, such as a man think of in his heart, so was he right.
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So it's to help cleanse the heart at the end of each chapter, because now I need to see myself differently.
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I've been seeing myself the wrong way every time I look in the mirror, but now I want to see myself differently.
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So the visualization is powerful, that you can go to and just sit and lay down in a nice place and visualize and meditate on his word.
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David said I meditate on your word day and night.
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You know how much more do we need to do that?
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You know when we've experienced all this chaos and that trauma.
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I need to meditate daily.
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I need to see myself differently so that I can walk in the power and authority that is granted to me, as you said earlier, catherine.
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So that's what that book is about 14 Days.
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Amen, I can't help it y'all.
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I got to say this again.
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Miriam, you just look like you have overcome some things and the fruit I see.
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Now I see the fruit of what you had to go through.
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Does that make sense?
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I see the fruit of it and I just believe when you find, when you run across people, women of God and men of God, who they just have a heart for what they are doing you know, it's a story attached to that freedom.
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We can be free, you can be free, and she and I are are proof that freedom is possible, that where you are, you don't have to stay where you've been, you don't have to go back to that.
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You know what I mean.
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You can overcome whatever you are facing and that what you are facing, it is not for nothing and what God wants to do and the glory that comes out of what you are going through, is really up to you to allow it to happen and let it bring forth its fruit.
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It don't have to be bad, amen.
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It doesn't have to be bad fruit, hallelujah.
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It don't have to be that.
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It doesn't have to be bad fruit, hallelujah.
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It don't have to be that.
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The choice is really up to you.
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You have to overcome the battle, because it is a battle, it is.
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It ain't easy, and I say this to my congregation all the time you know the enemy is gonna.
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He's not gonna sit back and let you be happy.
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He's not gonna sit back and let you be happy.
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He's not going to sit back and let you be peaceful.
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He's not going to sit back and let you not worry.
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He's not going to sit back and do all the things that our flesh says it's supposed to do.
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It just don't work that way.
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You're going to be free.
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